Life’s little lessons
three of the best life lessons
As I go through the ups and downs of life, these words keep me going with sanity.
This too shall pass
I've come across many difficulties in life - disappointments, physical ailments, academic failures, broken relationships and financial difficulties. As I went through each of the tough phase in my life, I’d tell myself - ‘This too shall pass’ and so did each of them.
There was a time when I used to think that, “I don’t need to do anything; with time, this situation will go away or get better”. I’ve realized that it is a lazy attitude.
Some situations may go away or get better as time goes. In other cases, you have to change your perspective or take a solid action before the situation get any better. However, most often, it is, ‘take-enough-action-and-then-wait-with-hope’.
It has guided me not only during my bad days. These words have guided me during my ‘feeling-damn-good-buddy’ days as well.
In essence, these words have kept me going with hope one one side and humility on the another.
Life is not a zero-sum game
I've not understood game theory well. All that I know is, “I don’t have to necessarily loose for others to win; and others don’t have to necessarily fail for me to win”. Both can win. Or in corporate parlance, it is a ‘win-win’ situation.
In one of the mail forwards, I read the below and it challenged me to think with this ‘win-win’ perspective.
A shoe salesman is sent to an island. He returns back saying, “None wears shoes; No opportunity”. The company sends another. He returns saying, “None wears shoes; great opportunity”.
I've been in many disastrous situations - in personal and professional lives - sometimes when others have explicitly given up hope. I don’t mean to say I can solve the issue. Not always. But something better can come out of it, if someone takes the pain to think.
Life is a bitch and at the end you have to die
I bet you did not expect this after all this optimistic talk. Right? Well, let me say one thing: I’m somewhere in between being-optimistic and being-pessimistic, which I call ‘being-realistic’.
When I get attached to life (when the going is good) and try to be a good person myself, I start to expect that life will be fair to me. Let us get this straight: life can be beautiful; life can be fun; life can be anything but fair. Life is unfair: sometimes in favor of you; most often ruthlessly against you.
I accept the brutal fact that life is unfair (rather a bitch). That doesn’t depress me; rather it challenges me to be stronger to take action (life is not a zero-sum game; think differently to win) with a hope (this too shall pass).
I keep repeating this (AA) prayer quite often:
Grant me the strength To change the things that I can Grant me serenity To accept the things that I can’t change And wisdom To know the difference
Life is a paradox. Beauty lies in knowing to sail through that.